There are lots of events in life that could cause feelings of grief in anyone.  Grief can be described as the reaction to the loss of someone or something that is dear to us.  There are many different types of life events that can cause feelings of grief: •  Loss of parents, grandparents, siblings or other relatives through death or just getting out of touch due to growing apart or moving away •  Loss of a partner through death, separation, divorce or simply a lack of closeness •  Loss of children through death or even just moving away out of the house or to college.  •  Loss of potential children or grandchildren because of infertility, miscarriage or homosexuality •  Loss of a job, career opportunity, youth, health or fitness or even loss of community if you have moved away •  Loss of a pet, for which there is sometimes little support from others because “it’s only a pet”  Any kind of personal loss can trigger feelings of grief, loss and bereavement.  The strength of these feelings can be affected by many kinds of circumstances: •  Closeness to the deceased; either a spouse, parent or child or else a more distant relative or friend •  The way that the person left, either through a prolonged illness or else a sudden death •  For partners, an affair, abuse, a broken engagement or other abrupt separation •  For pet owners, being forced to choose to euthanize a loved pet who was suffering After the initial shock of the loss, the symptoms of grief reactions are perfectly natural and may persist for weeks, months or years.  They include: •  Intense feelings of shock, guilt, irritability, anger or preoccupation with death •  Crying or sobbing without real provocation •  Sleeping or eating too little or too much •  Difficulty concentrating, remembering, reasoning or making decisions •  Becoming apathetic and not able to enjoy favorite pastimes, or other symptoms of depression. •  Hallucinations or dreams about the lost loved one Many times, intense feelings of grief simply tend to work themselves out but never disappear entirely.  However, grief counseling may be called for if … •  The feelings do not diminish over time, and continue to disrupt your daily life’s functioning. •  The grieving seems out of proportion to the triggering loss.  •   If there was trauma involved with the loss that may interfere with normal grief resolution. Suzanne sometimes uses EMDR to help people work through their grief in a healthy way.  Please contact Suzanne at her office in Rockville, Maryland for a free initial telephone consultation to see how she can help you.
Grief And Loss
Suzanne Corcoran, LCSW-C, Counseling for Couples and Individuals in Rockville, Maryland